#debsaristories #englishvinglish "You're good!", "I am good" and the confusion Work culture of course differs between countries and so does language, although English is the universal (and phunny) language

 ########### In the initial days, during one of the face to face meetings with an executive
 Me: (wrapping up the meeting), and that's all I had in agenda for today
Exec: ok great, you're good!
Me: (surprised and wondering how he knows I am good especially because I had just joined but anyways I happily thought my good work reputation runs ahead of me 😛) "THANK YOU"
Exec: "Sure, You're good" Me: (this person seems to be very good and humble, he's repeating in praise) "THANK YOU VERY MUCH "
Exec: "????????" Expression wondering why I wasn't leaving his office. So he said "I am getting late for another meeting and you're good "
Me: "ok thank you. Also many thanks for your generous compliments "
Exec: "Excuse me?" But he didn't bother to drag the conversation
Me: super happy that day. But shortlived. Mujhe kya patha tha "You're good" means "Chal nikal, phut le yahaan se" or in simple words "get out".🙄🙄🙄
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Few months later, Different day, Different Exec. I had brought some goodies from India and I was sharing it with my colleagues. Being the respectful person that I am (of course kidding), I walked in to ths Exec's office After exchanging pleasantries about my trip, and catching up on work
Me: I brought these sweets from India, hope you like them
Exec: I am good
 Me: (wondering why he is suddenly self boasting) "I agree, in fact we all see you as our leader and guide, oh btw do you want these sweets?"
Exec: (not exactly following my comment) "Not sure about my leadership, but I am good"
Me: (hadh hai, yeh to arrogant bandha nikla, baar baar self dabba kar raha hai, who cares if he is good or not, I am not here to give his character certificate and I wont praise him anymore) "Oh, you are good, but the team is great too. They are very hardworking " By then I wasnt in mood to offer him sweets anymore as I was annoyed and I made an excuse and stepped away. Oh well, the exec didn't complain either because that's what he had been trying to communicate from the first place! "I am good" matlab "I dont need what you are offering " or basically "Baat khatam"
 🥰🥰 And I learnt to live by two other mantras. 1. You can be forgiven for any mistake if you blame it on the lack of your usual morning caffeine intake. "Its not me. It's the coffee or lack of" 2. You can become friends with anyone if you empathize and offer them coffee. It connects almost instantly. No occasion, just sunny day, happy Friday, happy me. Saree pehenne ka koi acha waqt nahi hotha hai, jab pehno tabhi se acha waqt shuru #battameezdil

#debsaristories I came back too soon. Waise Chai piyoge? Cooking to me is equivalent to prayer and feeding equals to blessings, so obviously kitchen to me is sacred and favorite place. I enjoy the process starting from chopping to the final presentation, every single time. I like to serve well even if it's just us and not only when expecting guests. It must look good, smell good and then of course taste good. Its seduction. And chai to me is amruth "prasad".

 Today when baba ate my typical bengali "bandhakopi r tarkari" for lunch and said I made it like his mom used to, it's a huge compliment and blessing. Especially because I learnt from my mother inlaw who learnt from her mother inlaw. Back when I was 13 and made bhindi for the first time, nanna (dad) said the same thing that it reminded him of his mom's (nannamma) vanta (haath ka khana).. although my grandma passed away when I was 3 and whatever I cooked that day was from my own heart's recipe. Besides sarees the only other personal favorite I can pass to my nextgen is everything I learnt from amma and ma. Today early morning I dreamt of having chai with Niveditha in our previously owned gurgaon apartment. I don't care where, but certainly Nivi ke saath chai would be an amazing moment. I think the dream is a consequence to her traffic wala post from yesterday! Agar mera ek aur sapna sach hona chahoongi, that's my dream to do saree (and only saree) modeling . Bachpan se shauk tha modeling ka, kabhi poora nahi hua. Model wale looks nahi the na. Khair chodo. I loved all the khadi sarees from Darbaar movie and I realized I dont have a ponduru khadi saree in my collection, so although I wasnt planning to, I settled for this begumpuri saree to enjoy chai, kurkure with Ma and watch our favorite TV shows the Kapil Sharma show and Dance Plus. All cottons to me are "indoor sarees" nowadays. The weather here although not snowing doesnt favour cottons a lot. Smirk. 🙏🙏 Annadhatha sukhi bhava 🙏🙏 Ghar bhaite World Tour! Dakho mein kahan kahan chali gayi (pic in comments). Patideb asked if I need more tours I said, nahi bhai.. bahut zyada jetlagged hoon, do din lagenge recovery mein.

#debsaristories #desividesi saree and crop top Never have i been so excited about growing older, so much so that I countdown every day. This 40 is definitely doing some tantra mantra on me. By now half the world I know and the rest of the world they know know my age. 🤣🤣🤣 colleagues (the Male ones had this, oh! Is she sharing her age publicly expression), gymwale, all usual departmental stores I visit, neighbors, and their world knows it. I share with them my goals or things to do I have in mind this year Oh no! My intention isn't celebrations or gifts. Least of my excitement now. But something motivates me to take a pause and do a check in with myself, because more than half of life's marathon is completed. I don't remember this enthusiasm before my 10th bday, or 20th and 30th bday. Those came and left. Perhaps its because I am around from a long time and feel I am antique, gyani now. Like.. forty years down the line someone sees my pic from today and then someone else says "sorry madam ajkal aise piece market mein available hi nahin hai.. yeh to chalees saal purana maal hai.. abhi aisa karigari nahi milta" Perhaps because I turned out to be ok after all, because all of us took time and effort to be what we are today. Maybe because I feel so young at heart, I am laughing at this number to say "tu pagal hai, I don't feel 40". Or because a lot of us don't fit into typical stereotypes that the age number brings with. In over excitement, I had committed not to buy new sarees. Ye, I splurged last year and bought few collectible ones too and stacked them like priced possessions with no intent of draping them anytime soon. But omg, it ain't easy at all to resist any amazing six yards. Its like addiction and getting away from it is tough. I told family though: I am open to receiving saree as gift, that's not a problem with my resolution. Immediately comes patideb response- this year my goal is not to gift saree to anyone. 😡🤬🤬🤬 he knew to be on mute rest of the day. Oh btw patideb is taking me places these days. Don't run far into imagination. He found this app that does the job of switching background pretty good, so any vacation I have in mind he uses that as background with my saree pic in forefront. And then says "anyway your matlab is not about visiting places and learning, your main motto is a saree pic, so here you go. I can even take you to moon this way!" 🤬🤬🤬 So yea! I am on moon today as you could see!

#debsaristories #desividesi xxxl size post You dont realize what you gained unless you lose. ❤There always can be a better you ❤ #feel20at40 Different people different problems. For some that are long limbed the disadvantage is that weight gained gets camouflaged and you dont realize when you shape towards unhealthiness.

"You look fine", "You are skinny anyways", "you have nothing to lose " are common un-compliments. But honestly, your inner voice may not always buy those! Mine didn't. Human beings are animals and our skeletal structure is very lean. Rest of the animals in the ecosystem may not go through weight issues maybe because their lifesytle and habits have been significantly consistent since creation. Like lions dont watch TV with popcorn or deers dont drink soda and eat junk. But humans have evolved into other beings than originally created. So our bodies have started messing up as well. Unless we work hard and take conscious efforts to stay on track it's hard to be close to the original design. Its like handloom sarees. It requires effort and skilled labour and its tough. My ahaa moment was in May last year and have worked out fifteen pounds off of me since. I have a personal goal to look like my twenty self when I turn forty in few months later -- only more happy, wise, healthy and emotionally wealthy. I am still on the way towards the goal and will share with you all as soon as I get there. The feeling of healthiness and being active and physically energized is the reason for this effort- looking skinny or not is a bonus, and not the main reason. EDIT: I joined a gym where the one hour workouts are HITT. Treadmill, Water rowing and Floor exercises. When you start its definitely tough and tiring. I went five days a week although for around five-six weeks, later maintained atleast 4-5 days a week. During this time I would be ravenously hungry after workout so relied on eggs for breakfast. Lunch would be daal or salad. The key difference is to complete dinner by 6:00pm. Later if you are hungry, grab few nuts. Drink water (the terrible headaches due to dehydration are definitely not worthy). In between if you snack, eat chat, drink chai,eat icecream that's perfect. Marna thode na hai... fit hoke jeena hai bass. You would definitely see difference. The toughest part was to get up of the bed early morning (that was my only available me-time spot). Honestly, everyday I would feel like going back to bed, but the visible results and the inner satisfaction kept my driven. I want to try Pilates or Yoga but want to be slow and steady. Ab bhi long life ahead. I don't need to exhaust all mu options at the same time, I can stagger instead. So pls dont take fitness and health lightly. We are privileged to have the ability and access resources to eat and live a healthy life. There are many out there struggling to meet basic needs, do understand that our bodies and mind are our responsibility. Apna khayal rakhna.