#debsaristories Pure georgette saree with benarasi brocade border with sequined crop top. Drove around to choose vineyard backdrop. #allindiassmeet Who said two women cant be besties?
Me: Ma, i am planning to work from home
Ma: excellent, we can watch a movie
Me: 🙄🙄🙄 Ma, I am not on pto. I need to work and have to attend meetings
Ma: get them done quickly, lets go for lunch together. long time no sushi!!
Me: I rest my case. 👭👭👭

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Me: Ma, come lets take a selfie
Ma: chinni, do you know to pout like Kareena Kapoor?
Me: no, i can try. Infact lets both try - Selfie done- I look like little piggy and ma has a ooh aah ouch pout! Less of pout, more iodex ad.
Ma: huh, we should practice more often. You have a lot to learn still.🤣🤣
Me: I rest my case. 👭👭👭

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Me: we should visit Hawaii one day!
Ma: yes and when we go i need to shop for shorts
Me: ma?!!!!!😱😱
Ma: you take your saris, i am gonna dress cool. Its Hawaii babe!🙌🙌
Me: I rest my case. 👭👭👭

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Perhaps Ma and I are the only mil-dil combo that hang out at Starbucks babe-watching and learning fashion lessons. I am proud of her pride in me, my education and encouraging in my career while I am proud of who she is and how elegantly and respectfully she carries herself and treats me likewise. Pics courtesy, Ma again! Clicked 75 and 3 of them survived.
Ma's photography strategy - its upto you to position yourself in the frame..else your head or hand could disappear.. oh! Sometimes you could completely disappear! That laughter is worth the effort !!! Life's about small things.
Like someone said, i indeed have a BFF at home in my motherinlaw. Of course It wasn't like this when we started. Rome isnt built in a day! We started off completely strangers to each other, our cultures background, languages, food, dressing ... everything. The common connection was the Deb saab. That anchored us to make each other priority too. We worked hard to gain trust confidence friendship eventually becoming confidantes. It takes time but not at all impossible! When you dont have insecurities and intentions that could hurt others, friendship is bound to blossom.

We choose to be more forgiving with some over others. When in marriage we are very tolerant with our spouses, even in rough situations we take every effort to patch up. We forget to extend it to parents and siblings of the couple. Both ways. Trust intentions to be good, sooner or later it will be. Its no competition or conflict of interest at all. No two roles are same even when played by the same person. I am different as a daughter, sister, wife, daughter in law, mom, friend, colleague etc.. so is everyone else. No relationship is always magical and happy ever after. There are always ups and downs how much ever besties you are, but thats when you need to remind why and how you started. If it was worth the start, its worth the effort to keep it up.

Never doubt.
Keep calm and saree on

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Pathi-Deb is fond of driving. simply said. Over the years I figured out arguing with him on this topic isn't worth my energy. Although I have my own WT#/#&$& moments when we step out for groceries and end up 200 miles farther🙄🙄! I was recently asked. You guys drive ten hours one way, only to spend an hour at the destination.. why? Hmmm. I said.

All of us know we are born to die. But, do we rush to die? We dont! If destination is all that matters for a journey then why not plan to die quickly?! On the contrary we take time to enjoy the journey (life), we brag, we drag, we want to see our kids marriage and grandkids' marriage and even great grandkids' marriage. Don't we? We dont plan to budge. Nah nah.

I think most often people miss the fun of journey in their quest for that perfect destination. By the time they realize, the journey and destination are both worthless! Cant be redone. Whats constant is the time, not the distance not the journey neither the destination. Take time to try the offbeat paths, stop by to walk the dusty road. Smell the soil and the stink. Look at the sky or cattle grazing... take time to enjoy the gift of life, for we all have our timers counting down, for the duration of our physical presence is negligible compared to the universe existence!

Ma and I went for a drive to look around amidst the rainy weather. Stopped by to enjoy the final week of fall colors before they reach their destination. Life is beautiful by default, unless we muddy and mess it up. Btw can anyone knowledgeable let me know if this looks like handwoven benarasi??

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Kanchi revival - 40 year old silk sari that belonged to paternal grandma, sari just as old as my mom's marriage. I was 3 when grandma left for better world so this is my treasure from her! Mein aur mere posts aqsar yeh baatein karte.. ki tum chalte to kitna acha hota, tumhare comment padke mein kitna hansti, tumhare likes dekhke mein kitni khush hothi... tum chalte to aisa hotha, tum chalte to waisa hotha.. par kambaqt tu to chali hi nahi.. ulta theater se hi nikal gayi!! 😩😩
If you pay attention each post is like a movie, with action drama, photography, lyrics, dialogues, foreign locales(mannn Swiss Alps, Kashmir, Leh .. kahaan kahaam shooting nahin kiye!) , awesome heroine and sometime awesome beyond the scenes crew (for those leherati pallus, for the back pose, side pose, sleeping on the tree branch pose, looking at sun moon pose, the sexy pose, the swag pose, the homely look pose.. endless list) and most importantly COSTUME! But not all movies are superhit. Some movies errrrr posts have every masala ingredient to make it superhit but somehow the formula doesnt work and the film. 🌟 some go flat and out of the news feed in few minutes if not seconds... like "Yamla pagla deewana remake". 🙄🙄 🌟Posts like mine are "aaya ram gaya ram".. patha bhi nahi chalta.. its gone before you wink! 🤣🤣 🌟 same formula doesn't work for two consecutive movies (your own or copied) ! For once one of my posts got some attention and comments, so tried something on those lines again including good photography, saree etc.. but nope.. the next few releases fell flat, utter flop ! Oh ! Dont even ask me about the time and effort to recover from those loses! 🤢🤢 🌟Some movies errr posts may look simple and not so catchy but somehow is superhit with the audience.. the art film types.. movies like "Lootera, Bhadhai ho etc" 👰🤰🤱 🌟Some movies are purely superhit for the talented heroines and some are viral for their impactful and compelling storyline... "Queen, Fashion, Padmavat" etc.💃👸 I do spend time pausing through each of these posts wondering what made it a superhit or not so much .. But much like Bollywood no one knows what works for the audience end of day until after the movie releases and box office collections show up! Well, for the all-in-one crew that each one of us are, hats off for our immense enthusiasm and showcase of obvious and hidden talents! 🤗This show MUST go on for sure!! Picture abhi baaki hai guru!🌟 Lets see if i can recover my past loses from this one atleast! 😋😋

#debsaristories #nopactsareeon #benarasi

Was in mood for a no-reason-photoshoot
Wedding anniversary around the corner but looks like I won't be able to drape saree on that day, so took out the benarasi saree which I wore only once before! The cream with gold work always speaks class, the lucky pick being the partly pallu purple pleats! Ma's (mil) choice for me. The california wildfire season left lots of destruction and devastation behind us.. while we cannot do much to fix it, prayers and help certainly are the least. The air quality and smoke kept many indoors.. schools closed, events canceled, disruption to normal life.. and a lot of emphasis to ensure people remain in good health. Which is btw the right thing to do.. but then i just checked the air quality index for major cities in India.. its similar if not worse.. but our lives there never stopped.. kids grow up in that atmosphere not knowing what it means to their health long term.. while we did not know about such things growing up, it did not affect us.. now that we know such things, we worry! Not sure what is better.. to know or not to know! After hiatus ma on duty for photography today. Good job ma!! 🤗💖🤗💖

#debsaristories #nopactsareeon Its the festival of light, literally and generally too! The light that could destroy evil thoughts from the narakasura within us, the light that could destroy the division amongst humans (when people get picky on how their culture celebrates Diwali a certain time a certain way.. i am rolling my eyes.. could we not divide anymore? Can we all just blur some lines and stay happy?) I have a range of days to celebrate Diwali starting from whenever the air is festive to whenever i am generally exhausted.. which could be a three to four day period usually. During this time i am happy, super happy, and smile a lot.. i dont mind spreading the smiley virus to others. I guess there isnt a vaccination to stop that yet. Light and let live! On a tired working day, i pulled my best spirit to do a rangoli as much best possible.. ye it could have been better but.. bura na mano Diwali hai!

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Georgette benarasi is certainly a wardrobe staple for saree lovers. This is one such.. although more on subtle side.. with the grey and silver combo.

To those drivers that zip zash past me and speed up.only to screech break in the next red signal.. chill.. why rush to destination when you could enjoy the journey..

Reminds me of the song .. "agle mod pe mauth khadi hai.. marne ki bhi kya jaldi hai.. " So true! I don't know why some people dont get it.. sigh 🤔🤔